Project apotheosis
Murray-san, that's an awful big "first" step to redefinition. I would think that would come last or second to last or something. You gotta start small with these things. This is what I think:


Step One: Redefinition of Self
Making a small difference, or learning to love the place I'm at.
I resolve to, every day, complement at least one person (especially if I don't know them well or at all) on something.
The goal here is to make other people smile. Cracking jokes is unnaceptable because complements work to make you actually look at people.
The second rule, aside from the smile, is that it has to be genuine. No lying about an ugly shirt.
In my opinion, we never tell people enough of what we think of them. We don't interact on an interpersonal basic. Often, there is too much "constructive" criticism. I think seeing people in this light will eventually create a new, positive outlook. I think it will become natural, not to be a flatterer, but to make others feel good about themselves. And this makes you feel good about yourself.